Are U Always The Friend,Never The Boyfriend?

You see a woman you like, not the friendly kind of like but the ‘hello-i-want-to-share-my-life-with-you‘ kind of like. You approach this woman and everything appears to be going smooth, one thing leads to another, stuff you can not control and gbam! You are in the friend-zone. But how did you get there? Well friend, this is one question I want to address but before we go further, let us explain what the term ‘friend-zone’ means to our brothers who have no idea what it means. A certain picture I saw some time ago, I think, explains the term, vividly.

“A friend-zone is a state where she sees you as a non-sexual entity, something like her brother or a lamp.“

I believe this definition is quite explanatory and if you still don’t understand what a friend-zone is after reading that simple and short narration, I would say, with utmost humility and shock, “you need deliverance.” No offense sha.

Moving on, I did say I would try and explain to you in the simplest of language, why men get into one of men’s most dreaded zones- the friend-zone.

Every time I write about relationships and women, there is one point I keep hitting on- Women are wired emotionally, they act on how they feel. This point hugely contributes to the reason why u are in the friend-zone. It is like this, a woman automatically likes you when you make her feel good but it is how you make her feel good that determines whether you would be friend-zoned or not.

Women are sensitive, it is their talent, they can perceive things far more than men can. A woman can tell within seconds of meeting somebody new of they are fake or not. With that being said, here is the reason yu are in the friend-zone, you met a good-looking woman, made her feel good about herself which she liked very much but somewhere along the line, she discovered you were not being real with her and so to protect her self and at the same time not loose you, she friend-zoned you, you get?

Now the question is, ‘How were you not real with her?’

There is one abstract thing women really want in a man but would never admit it- Realness, which is your offense….you gave her your attention which she certainly wants but you were not real. Giving a woman your attention and being real should go hand-in-hand, especially if you are just knowing each other. Your offense is you became nice too soon, you were trying too much to impress her, trying too hard to get her attention. Here is a shocking but obvious truth; Women test men every time. Yes! She does or you honestly believe that those times she asked you to send her airtime, she did not have any other way to get it? Or that period where she just met you and you guys were out and she said a casual “I’m hungry”, she was really so hungry that she was too weak to go home and find her self something to it? Huh?

My point exactly, she was testing you. A typical woman has lots of men struggling for her attention and the only way she can choose between these men is to subconsciously ‘test’ them, and anyone she succeeds in manipulating obviously gets friend-zoned, that is just how it works.

No, I am not saying you should not send a woman airtime, pay for her meals or other nice stuff, what I am saying is you should not try to impress her too much. Let her be the one to try to impress you. Do nice stuff for her only after you discover she’s earned it….give her opportunities to earn it. The best way to compete with a lot of men struggling for her attention is not to compete with them. Compete but not with them, compete with her instead, you get?

It is quite unoriginal for you to just meet a woman and in minutes or days, you already think she deserves nice stuff- that is just plain fakeness and that my dear friend is why you got friend-zoned.

Who Really Owns a Man, A Wife or A Mother?

Who owns a man.....His mother or His wife?

IN ARGUMENT BETWEEN A MAN'S MOTHER AND THE MAN'S WIFE.

Mother....... my son must obey me unless he didn't suck my breast for 1year,

Wife......... he sucks mine now & sucked it for more dan 5yrs and he is still sucking.

Mother..........I carried him for nine months.

Wife........ he was only 3.5kg den, so whats the big deal?......I carry him every night and he is 85kg now.

Mother.......he passed between my legs.

Wife...... he only passed there once....., he stays in-between my legs like everyday

Mother.......he pees on my body and bed-wet my foam every night

Wife...... Hahaha,.....that was long ago when he was still a kid.........now he is adult and he pees inside me and bed-wet my honeypot any time he want..not at night alone but any time and any where he wishes.

Please people.... WHO OWNS A MAN?

Kindly leave a comment below.

11 Things Men Care About Than " I Love You"

 They say Actions speak louder.....

You must have heard it before that Men are visual, women are verbal. Men are impulsive, women like to analyze things. Men are from Mars, women are from Venus. So since husband and wife are opposite in many ways, it makes sense that male and female hearts swell for different reasons.

While you most likely smile when your companion says, “I love you,” those same three strong words from you may not do much for him. Here are Eleven gestures that shows you care and why they’re more meaningful to the man in your life.
 
1. His favorite meal
That old adage is true: “The best way to a man’s heart may be through his belly,” says Dr. Dow. “Knowing what he likes to eat without having to ask him demonstrates how well you know him. And the couples I’ve treated who know small details about each other have the happiest marriages.”

But maybe your husband likes everything you make! In that case, try breaking out the pumpkin pie. Research by Alan Hirsch, PhD, of the Smell & Taste Research Foundation in Chicago has shown that that sweet scent arouses men more than other aromas.



2.Your undivided attention
“When the male brain sees you checking your iPhone during dinner, it interprets that as ‘I’m not important,’” says marriage therapist Mike Dow, PsyD. That’s because men’s brains evolved to do one thing at a time while filtering out all other stimuli, he explains.

Even though women function differently (you know firsthand how well you multitask), your man will appreciate you focusing solely on him. “It says, ‘You are my priority, and I love you,” adds Dr. Dow. So make eye contact while he’s talking and limit interruptions.

 3. Taking care of yourself
Shedding stress, eating right, exercising, quitting smoking and even pampering yourself may sound like treats for you, but they’re also ways to show you love him.

“This communicates, ‘I want to have a long, wonderful life with you, and I’ll do whatever it takes to prevent you from experiencing the grief of losing someone,’” says Dr. Dow. What better motivation is there to get healthy?

4. Wearing that dress he loves you in
Dolling up sends the message that you still want to look good for him, no matter how long you’ve been together. “Men’s brains are wired to respond to visual cues more than women’s brains,” says Dr. Dow. “Seeing you in that sexy dress shows him you desire him.”
And a scarlet number may work best. A study by researchers at the University of Rochester in New York found that ladies in red are an aphrodisiac to men.

5. Complimenting him
Throughout time, men have had to fight and provide to attract and keep women—and they aren’t afraid to pull out the masculinity measuring sticks when potential competitors come around. Let your husband know you think of him the way he’d love to be seen: as a provider, problem-solver, handyman, sex stud and knight in shining armor.
“Genuine compliments on his looks and strength confirm that you admire him, which equates to love,” says clinical psychologist Andra Brosh, PhD. When he pops the lid on the jam jar with ease, mention that you enjoy having such a strong man around. He’ll beam—and chalk it up as a reason you chose him over all those other guys.

6. Encouraging him to take time for himself
While you may not hesitate to ask for you time, your husband may have trouble verbalizing what he needs. Occasionally, suggest he take a day to relax with friends, play video games, work on the car or just sleep in.

“This shows support and allows him the freedom to do what he needs to be his best self,” says Dr. Brosh. Your husband will see hassle-free, worry-free, chore-free time as a loving reward.

7. Asking his advice
Your man wants to feel like an important part of your world. On top of that, he’s a hard-wired problem-solver. Ask for his opinion on how to approach the boss for a raise, and you prove you trust and value his judgment.
“When a man can fix something, he feels competent and useful,” says Dr. Brosh.
“Asking for advice shows that you rely on him and that there’s a place for him in your life. Need, dependency and love go hand in hand.”

8. Thanking him for the little things
Next time your husband drives the kids to school or takes out the trash, express your gratitude. “We’re rushing through life, we forget to notice the good deeds and guys forget to say what they need from you, but they have feelings, too.
So say, ‘I really appreciate that,’” says licensed marriage and family therapist Carin Goldstein, creator of BetheSmartWife.com. Giving thanks will improve his attitude and infuse your relationship with a feel-good energy.

9. A lengthy hug
Instead of a quick peck before running out the door, choose a lingering embrace. “While women connect verbally, men connect more through touch,” says Goldstein. “Hug for at least seven seconds. It’s a long time, but there’s something about that number where the hold ends up really giving him something.” And there’s no doubt you’ll like it, too.

10. A quickie
Making love for an hour is nice, but once in a while, made love for just a few minutes, suggests Dr. Dow. Although women get that loving feeling with a rise in oxytocin (what you release during that post-coital cuddling session), men feel it with an increase in dopamine, the chemical they release during sex which stimulates the mental pleasure-and-reward center, explains Dr. Dow.
“I hope that most of the time, your lovemaking is full of foreplay and romance. But other times, just made love.”

11. Letting him vent
The latest office drama or family fight plays on his emotions more than he’d like to let on. So create a safe space for your guy to let his walls down. “Listen to his worries or problems without trying to fix them,” advises Dr. Brosh. “It shows him you don’t deem him weak or inadequate and affords him a place in the relationship to share that part of his life. Moreover, it shows you care.” If he comes home from work in a bad mood, ask him if he wants to let it out. If not, that’s fine—but he may need a prod to open the floodgates.