END THE RELATIONSHIP ASAP!

I have always known and once again come to realize (after various attempts) that having a relationship is hard work and requires patience. Every relationship has its ups and down. There is a thin line between staying in a relationship to work things out and being stupid.

It’s important to clearly understand our needs in a relationship and qualities in a mate. Be absolutely honest with yourself and don’t compromising the qualities that are essential to you. What typically happens when we find a quality, which deeply matters to us, is missing in our partner, we think that they can be changed.

Truth is, we can’t make people change we can only change ourselves. Small things will magnify with time. Be conscious of these small things and be honest with yourself. Understand your needs and be true to yourself. Don't let him/her put you under any unnecessary pressure cos,we only have a set amount of time in this life, make it matter.

Here are some reasons I believe you should put an end to a relationship. I decided not to be biased towards any sex during the writing of this post.

1. No Privacy
Your partner monitors messages and e-mails, whenever you receive phone calls or chatting with friends on phone (s)he is always trying to know who you were talking to. You literally have to lock yourself up in the toilet to pick up calls. End that relationship!!! Before you know it (s)he will ask you to put your phone on speaker and starts deleting messages and e-mails (s)he feels are not important. Find someone who is loving and caring not a control freak.

2. Interference With Other Relationships
When your partner hangs out with their friends it is ok, but when you decide to hang out your friends it becomes a big deal. (S)he throws tantrums like a child and blackmails you emotionally. When you wave aside the blackmails and hang out with your friends, when you come back, there is some sort of “punishment” for leaving him/her alone. End that relationship!!! It starts that way and before you know it (s)he wants you to place them before your family. Find someone who enjoys being with most of the people you care about. If not, your relationship will be full of frustration.

3. Your Personal Life Is No Longer Personal
You are out with your friends and your partner suddenly blurts out ” (s)he cries when (s)he has an orgasm” and when you try to call him/her on it he/she simply tells you it was just to make the conversation amusing and you are too sensitive.
Whether you’re humiliated or not, as long as he/she thinks your personal life would make conversations amusing, end that relationship!! Find someone who wants you to be happy and confident about yourself and your life.

4. Cannot Let Go Of The Past
We have all experienced disappointment in life, but we try as much as possible to get over it and move on with our lives. Even in relationships we have to let go of those who have hurt us.
If your partner keeps on talking about his/her ex, takes you to places the ex took him/her to, hoping to run into the ex, or (s)he sometimes calls you the ex’s name, end that relationship!!!! You do not want to be with someone who is thinking of someone else half the time (s)he is with you. Find someone who is ready to build a relationship,future and home with you rather than someone trying to use you to get to his/her ex.

5. Abuse
No one deserves to be abused. Whether it is physical,mental or emotional, (s)he has no reason to subject you to that. When in love it is very easy to justify and explain your partner’s behaviour but you deserve better treatment from him/her if (s)he wants to be with you. End that relationship. Find someone who knows your worth and respects you.

You are probably nodding your head as you are going through one or more of the above.The above listed are my own opinions and perception for putting and end to a relationship that is   If so, maybe it is time for you to make a change. I would never try to break a relationship, but if this post has made you take a long look at your relationship, then were you really happy to begin with??

I Hate Sex!

Jumobi from Ilorin,Nigeria Needs Our Opinions

My first sexual encounter was with a fellow girl. No, i am not a Lesbian, contrary to what you might think as you read this. I was 14 years old, what did i know? I let her kiss me. Then i let her fondle my breasts. I fondled hers too. I liked it. Then as time went on, she began to say things like “I love you”  “I miss you”  “I can’t do without you”  that was when i knew there was trouble. We stopped talking to each other. Did i like boys? Hell yeah!

I am not inclining that i am Bi-sexually oriented either, no that’s not what i mean. I have always liked boys.
My first real sexual experience was with my boyfriend at 19. I heard so much about sex prior to that and watched a lot of “Blue Film” at the time. Needless to say, everything did not check out in reality when i finally had sex.

It was the most painful, annoying experience ever and i just hated it.

The part where he kissed and sucked on me down there felt very good. So every time after that, i found solace in the outpouring of emotions and the tenderness that i felt from him giving me oral stimulation in every form.


It began to feel like every time we had sex all i wanted was some good head, then I’d pretend to enjoy it while he made love to me. Then we broke up! And it was another boyfriend after that and then another. Yet the same “What-is-really-going-on-here” Sexual experience.

Here’s what happens:
-It starts off great at first
-I love the feel of his man organ in my vagina..that’s when it starts
-Then i quickly become dry down there and lubrication becomes so difficult, then it gets painful
-From here on, i just zero my mind on whats happening and drift off into my own thoughts waiting for it to be over..all the time moaning absentmindedly while he humps and grinds my wells.

At this point i ask you please, Do i have a Problem or do i just hate sex?

3 months ago, i was with my friend at a restaurant having dinner when she began to caress my leg with hers from beneath the table. I looked up at her and she winked at me. I immediately felt a rush of blood vibrate through my body. She signaled for me to join her in the rest room which i did without hesitation.

We had barely even closed the door when she pushed me against the wall and began to kiss me. I kissed her back, hurriedly, in absolute excitement as my Vagina burst into floods of juices between my legs. She reached for it, gliding her fingers into me effortlessly. It felt so good i could barely stand straight against the wall.

She did it with every care in the world, touching the right spots i didn’t even know existed.
This quick encounter ended just as quickly as it began, it was shorter than my full sex experiences with men but i would remember it forever!

Now again, i ask, Do i hate sex or do i just hate sex with men?

Please Advise me!

You can kindly drop your comment below.

Thank You!

Does Love Change?

Love, the golden word that binds all and heals all.

Love, just a bit of it would make the world a better place.

Love, that sweet poison which makes us do crazy meaningless things.

Ever seen a full grown man breakdown in public and shed oceans of tears, uncontrollably, without shame, bereft of remorse.
Have you ever lost the desire to eat, sleep, or even keep living over the loss(breakup) of a loved one?
Love, something so special, so divine, so sanguine, damn near perfect.

God’s greatest gift to man(more so evident in the sacrifice of his only son) In the past, I used to have a witty and somewhat realistic definition of love; ‘A four letter word that guys use to get into girls’ pants’.

I used to resist and fight love, and even the urge to fall in love. I was so certain of this naive assumption that i flaunted it about with careless abandon to whomever cared to pay attention, until nature had its way with me. I fell in love with a beautiful and extremely appealing girl and we didn’t make love until 1year after we started dating (Laffs, i wasn’t slow nor impotent). I was deeply in love and i was willing to wait till she was ready emotionally, physically and psychologically.

Obviously this experience changed my rebellious view on love, it killed the fight in me and sent me falling, crashing in love, never to rise again. Why then should something this beautiful, pure, and selfless change?
Maybe it is subject to the ever constant ‘change’ or the forever present ‘law of gravity’.

Does love really change?
I think it does, for me at least, and every other man I know. Anyone who has ever been in a love steeped relationship(the exemption of friends with benefits) must and will have experienced the highs and lows of love.

There are periods when the feeling of love is so intense, so thick, so strong, that we(guys) would see an extremely endowed woman with a big buttocks the size of Omotola Jolade and you won’t even give her a second look. That is love at its best, highest, purest peak. There are times when it(love) is so low you would wonder “what the heck am I doing with her”. At that point, all her previously caring flaws will be magnified in your eyes.

Love certainly has different levels of intensity and it would only be hypocritical and unrealistic of us to deny this, consequently and unconsciously telling the young ones that it is forever a blissful phenomenon, nah, not possible. There is Desire love and true love.

Desire love might not fluctuate, might not waiver, might even never bicker, but trust me, it is fickle deep down and can’t last, never.

True love on the other hand is sometimes sweet, sometimes sad, sometimes fraught with ups and downs, but at the end of the day, you know you have something real, worth fighting for.

Love tends to change over weeks, months, and years. Basically, over time. Even in one day or an hour, love can and does fluctuate.

Tell me you’ve never been with your partner for about a couple of hours and not felt bored and indifferent at some point, hell, even tired of them.

You’re nodding, yeah , that’s it, that’s the fluctuation. The change s does not mean that love disappears from the relationship. It is natural for love to fluctuate from time to time in human relationships, whether we want it or not, like it or not.

Some people say if love fluctuates,  it never was love,  but I say , if love doesn’t chnage, doesn’t waiver,
 how do you test its limit?, its depth?, its validity?, How do you?

My friends, the moment you realize that love fluctuates in relationships, the better equipped you will be, relationship-wise.

Let me have your views on this.

Burn Your Belly Fat Fast

It is common this days in Nigeria and around the world amongst the ladies saying that "Oh my God,I have Added more flesh..i want to lose weight" "gosh, why is my belly getting bigger and bigger when I'm not pregnant".

But,let the truth be told...How many of them can actually exercise or do rope skipping for at least 30mins in a day? So i took it upon myself to do some researches on the internet.

When it comes to weight loss, it seems that the odds are stacked against women. They naturally have more body fat than men for childbearing reasons -- to help ensure the survival of their offspring -- and because their metabolism is slower.

As women grow older, the proportion of fat to body weight has a tendency to increase more than it does in men. Heredity, hormonal imbalances, and menopause also contribute to fat gain. During menopause, the fat tends to migrate from the hips and thighs to the midsection, as the ratio of fat to lean tissue shifts, causing fat to be stored in the upper body.

report also suggests that women who are not overweight but are vulnerable to the effects of stress are more likely to store more fat in the midsection.

Having extra fat in your midsection results in an apple-shaped body. A protruding tummy makes certain clothes look unflattering and can cause a lot of frustration and low self-esteem.

But more than just to look good on the outside, you should strive to achieve belly fat loss because of the health risks associated with having belly fat, also known as abdominal fat or visceral fat. Abdominal fat is associated with a number of health conditions because it can encase vital organs like your heart and liver and impair their daily functions. Having a waistline larger than 35 inches significantly increases your risk of diabetes and heart disease, the National Institutes of Health warns.

 Belly fat is actually the most dangerous type of fat – besides aesthetics, large waist lines are indicators of –disease-disease-disease.
It takes more than just crunches! We start to gain weight in our midsection when our cortisol levels spike. Stress is one of the primary culprits for high levels of cortisol secretion. When this happens cortisol breaks downs lean muscle (the type of tissue that burns calories most efficiently) and also holds on to fat storage in the abdominal region. That stress can even get WORSE with bad dieting; studies show that the stress caused by dieting can increase cortisol levels, making no change in belly fat even with calorie restriction. So how do you shape up? Incorporate these following things below and you will be on your way to a flatter belly in no
time flat!

1. Sleep
If you want to work late at night, think again. When your biorhythms are off, you end up eating more. When you’re tired you produce more ghrelin, which triggers cravings for sugar and other fat-building foods. Losing sleep can also alter your hormone production, affecting your cortisol levels that cause insulin sensitivity, prime reasons for belly fat! Getting about 7 hours of sleep a night is one of the best things you can do for your body shaping goals.
2. Short bursts of exercises
1000 crunches a night may get you strong abdominal muscles, but with a full layer of fat on top, you will not get the results you really want. Instead of all those crunches, do exercises that engage multiple muscle groups and work your cardiovascular system. Try planking, where you hold yourself in a push-up position, resting your forearms on the ground. Try 3 or 4 sets of holding for 30 seconds each. Getting up and moving throughout the day by going for walks on weekends.
3. Sugar is your Enemy
Fighting belly fat is 80% healthy diet. Reduce calories by filling yourself up with protein, vegetables, whole grains, and replacing bad habit snacks with good ones. For example, if you have a sugar craving, replace your calorie laden latte with a Muscle Milk lite, one of my favorites, because it has zero sugar and a ton of protein that will satiate while also torching my sugar craving! Another great trick is a sprinkle of cinnamon in your morning coffee or oatmeal- the spice has been shown to help stabilize blood sugar. It also slows the rate at which food exits the stomach, which helps you feel fuller longer.
4. Vitamin C
When you’re under extreme stress, you secret more cortisol hormone. Vitamin C helps balance the cortisol spikes that happen to you under this stress. Besides being a good way to counteract a cold, Vitamin C is also essential for making carnitine, a compound used by the body to turn fat into fuel, making this vitamin your fat burning friend.
If you’re going through an emotional crisis, stress from work, or a bad eating splurge, increase your vitamin C – it’ll help counteract the negative side effects. Try bell peppers, kale or kiwi fruits. These have even more Vitamin C than the famous Orange!
5. Eat Watermelon
The amino acid arginine, abundant in watermelon, might promote weight loss, according to the Journal of Nutrition. In a laboratory study, adding this amino acid to the diet of obese mice enhanced the oxidation of fat and glucose. Snack on watermelon and other arginine sources, such as seafood, nuts, and seeds, year-round.
6. Stay Hydrated
All of your body's chemical reactions, including your metabolism, depend on water. If you are dehydrated, you may be burning up to 2 percent fewer calories, according to researchers at the University of Utah. Drink at least eight to twelve 8-ounce glasses a day.
7. Slowing down your breath
This is a very simple method that you can use even when you’re in the midst of doing something else. Whenever you notice you’re feeling tense and uptight check and see how you’re breathing. Most people under stress either alternate holding their breath with short breaths, or take rapid shallow breaths. After you become aware of your own breathing, consciously relax your belly and slow down the breathing. This works best if you focus on slowing down the exhalation rather than your inhalation. With each exhalation you can say to yourself “slow down”. That is all there is to it- Simple but surprisingly effective!!!

I hope the above listed tips will help.

Happy Birthday To Moi!

Today is my birthday.

And do you know what I’ve realized? I’ve realized that life is made up of three things: Memories, Plans, and Deep Breaths.
Memories are our past. Memories are moments that have ended, but that are ours to keep forever and ever. Memories are what connect us with who we were, even if who we were was just a few moments ago.

Plans are our future, they’re what keep us moving forward. A plan for the afternoon, a plan for the month, for the year, for a lifetime. Plans are what connect us with who we want to be.

And Deep breaths. Deep breaths connect us with ourselves, with our now. Deep breaths are the only form of living in the present that I can truly understand.

We, all of us, are the sum of our parts. We’re the sum of our memories, our plans, and our deepest breaths. And, more than anything, we’re the sum of the people in our lives. We are who we are because of the tiny drops that other people have given us of themselves. I am who I am because of the delicious beauty of the people around me.

OK. So I might not have a party with invited guests, cake, balloons, or loads of gifts or cards. I will actually take full advantage of technology and appreciate every well wish I received via Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram AND I'll definitely buy myself gift.

Since 12 Midnight, phone calls and text messages have been coming in from many who are near and dear to my heart. Guess what, unexpectedly, got a call from a new friend last night planning to treat me to dinner with two other friends.

Thats Gonna be Fun!

While I was on my bed last nite reflecting on the past,a thought/question came to my mind,... So, Dude, what do you want to do differently this year? What do you want to do that is new? Very interesting questions at this juncture in my life and I quickly answered my sentience.

I have gone through a few major transitions since my last birthday so I welcomed that sentience.

I said.... EVERYTHING in my life is already different. EVERYTHING IS NEW! This is my truth in this season. Friends, every year that I celebrate the date of my birth is significant and so very special to me but this year is different because everything is so new i believe.

EVERYTHING IS NEW! We do not get very many moments like this in our lives. It is a rare gift to be in a position when the Lord makes ALL things new in your life here on earth. We may get new things here and there. We may have new opportunities here and there. We might meet new people here and there but to have EVERYTHING in your life to be brand new at once is rare in this life and I can truly say that I am tremendously blessed for having such a testimony.... and just around my birthday!

Smiles.. Friends, in the Book of The Revelation, John has a vision of a time in the future of the universe and all of creation, heaven and earth, when ALL things will be made NEW... Revelation 21:1-5 NIV Then I saw "a new heaven and a new earth," for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and there was no longer any sea. I saw the Holy City, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride beautifully dressed for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, "Look! God's dwelling place is now among the people, and he will dwell with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. 'He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death' or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away." He who was seated on the throne said, "I am making everything new!" Then he said, "Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true."

Friends, YES these words are trustworthy and true, God is making everything NEW!!! And though we cannot yet see what shall be, our GOD who transcends all time past, present, and future, has already completed that which we have yet to see and experience as NEW. In this life, we toil with all those things seen and unseen that would make us tire of the same old things. In this life, we live our lives looking for something new, something different, something better than this...whatever your this is and today we are reminded and encouraged by the truth that GOD'S WORDS ARE TRUSTWORTHY AND TRUE.... GOD IS MAKING ALL THINGS NEW!!! And I just happen to believe that we do not have to wait until heaven to begin to see and experience divine newness in our lives. As the old or the former things pass away in your life as you know it, please know that this must happen so that you may always walk in the newness of God's light and love.

My sisters and brothers do not be alarmed or afraid when anyone or anything in your life is no more. This is the only way that we can begin to see and experience what it means to live in the now of GOD. To live in the now of GOD means that there will be some thing's in our lives that must come to an end.

Everything and everyone will NOT be a carryover from the last season. Such is life in the NOW OF GOD!!! In this life, GOD is able to make all things new and different and now. This is where I am. This is where we are. This is where GOD will always be....new and different and now. And unless and until you surrender your vision of what you think new looks like, the former will be your now and that which our GOD desires for you to pass through and come to an end in your life will be suspended in your present until such time you allow the Alpha and Omega to be your beginning AND your end in this life.

 God has heaven covered and set and in order. Heaven already is..... BUT our God, in the process of making all things new... now... wants us to embrace that which seems so far removed from us in time and space...now. And as we release our hold onto people, places, and things that are destined to be former people, places, and things in our lives, we become privileged recipients of what God has already made new....right now!!!

So, LET GO!!! LET GOD!!! And walk in the prophetic now of what already is in God. For what GOD is making new, already is...now. Embrace it!!! Celebrate it!!! Walk in it!!! And live the amazing and abundant life you were created to live but very few actually see and experience because they refuse to accept God's word as trustworthy and true for them and because they refuse to let the former people, places, and things remain in their rightful position as passed away. GOD LOVES YOU AND I DO TOO!!!

Thank you all for being a part of my special day and making it even more special. I am so fortunate to have someone like you in my life.  **Winks*

Moving On........The Eve Of My Birthday.

I wrote a poem that was posted on ma facebook wall last year.

It was basically a reflection on the past year, what I'd learn, and what I wanted to do with the next year. I wrote a list of all the things I wanted to achieve.

Well, I have to say, I didn't achieve everything on the list. In fact, I achieved the things I didn't expect to achieve, and didn't even attempt some of the things I thought I'd achieved.

I haven't done any charity work, but I have sorted out some lil issues, still no Boo but working on that.*Lolz*

I went for seminars on leadership, learnt some genuine ways to make money, making steps to unveil some new ideas and I have learnt how to manage my anger/temper, sort of!!

I haven't learnt French, I haven't gotten a new job, and I still can't make the big buck - but that's ok.

It's the eve of my birthday, and whoever said that life begins in your 20s was right! I might not have achieved all the things on last year's list, but I have achieved other things, good things, and I'm proud.

I'm dealing with my life, I'm learning to accept the things that just "are" and stop letting the little things get to me. I've learnt that if you want something badly enough, and you work hard enough for it, you WILL achieve it.

I've identified what in my life was making me unhappy, and I am trying to change it.

I've learnt to apologise, and admit to my faults, as well as my mistakes, and I've learnt that, sometimes, love DOES conquer all.(hmmmmm)

I have met some amazing people, and I have developed some friendships that I will hold dear for the rest of my life.

I have hope that I will soon get a new job, serious relationship and I am excited for the future.

I'm moving on.

And so for this year's list? Well, that's easy!

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There Is No Indignity In Being Unwed

In Nigeria there is a stigma that comes from being unwed. Especially when you reach a certain age. Especially when you are a female. When these two instances happen to coincide you are usually deemed a lost cause, you become the subject of many a prayer and the object of many a pitying glance. The lack of that three-letter title, “Mrs.” affords you disrespect, sympathy and even prophesies of doom.

In Nigeria a man is seen as a woman’s shield, her shelter, her protector; and when one does not possess this armor one is open to attacks both of misguided kindness and downright cruelty. Religious individuals, of which Nigeria is full, say prayers for you, drag you from shrine to pulpit and introduce you to many a pastor hoping that someone can break the “curse.” There are talks of what you may have done wrong
in the past to evoke this present tragedy, there are speculations as to whether you were too picky – either by being too superficial or seeking something too substantial back when you were a “spring chick(en)” and how you are to blame for your current situation. There is much ado about nothing.

Although the topic generates much discussion and much revenue (through the production of movies, the traffic on radio talk shows like chaz B programme and advice columns, etc.), all the hurrah and the panic are baseless. Congregations hardly need to go up in spiritual arms, nor do families need to fall down in grief. Self-hate and regret need not be woven into a noose around the single person’s neck. There may be a stigma, but being single is certainly not a curse and there is no need to pick apart one’s family lineage or attempt to identify the demon that must first be exorcised before one can enter a state of holy matrimony – most times single is just single.

Perhaps one is single because they are set in their ways and those they have met would more likely compete with them than complete them. Perhaps the individual would rather make life choices without having to weigh them against the plans and passions of another. Perhaps the person would rather not compromise, commit or cater to another in that fashion. Perhaps the person has loved and lost and is unable or unwilling to love again in that manner. Perhaps someone does not want to settle for less than love and has not come across his or her “better half” yet. Whatever the supposition, the fact remains that being single does not come from the devil and marriage is not synonymous with being blessed or divine or better off.

There are many marriages that end in divorce, death or destruction and when people are attempting to shove you down the aisle they tend to gloss over that part. There are many unmarried situations that end in self-fulfillment, Then again there are marriages that indeed embody “marital bliss” and lead to the creation of the “ideal family.” It all comes down to the individuals within the institution. It is important to bear in mind that all relationships are atypical and unique – there is not one kind of marriage, just like there is not one kind of single. The right to choose exists for less life altering/ending decisions than Roe vs. Wade, and the right to be married or single is indeed at the discretion of the individual.

No two individuals will travel along the same exact life journey, and just because someone may not be on the same path as you that does not mean they are lost. Just because they may have passed the fork in the road towards “Marriage” and gone straight on their single journey does not make them a pariah or a prayer point.
There is only one time for marriage – the right time. When the two adults who are packing up their individual hearths and homes to become joined as one feel the time is right, then the time is right. No sooner. No later. Ageing does not equate the need to wed. There is no rush. There are talks of biological clocks ticking as a major excuse, but what argument is there for bringing a child into a potentially unhealthy
family? There is none. Marriage can wait and sometimes it can just be thrown out of the equation of an individual’s life completely.

Why do I feel like a traitor to the nation for speaking on this?

I understand the beauty of what God intended with the institution of marriage, and am keenly aware that ‘he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour with the Lord,’ but that does not mean it must be a chapter in the lives of all and sundry. There are so many unhappy singles, not because of their status but because of the pressure that comes along with it, because others are hovering over their ovaries and counting down their fertile eggs as the years pass by. Then again there are so many miserable marriages that were the result of someone else’s opinion or urging, marriages that rob one of their peace of mind and leave their self esteem in pieces. And we all know that once one weds in Naija, the popular follow up is till death do them part – despite extreme depression or dysfunction that may take up

resident in the unhappy home and lead to the individual dying a thousand deaths inside.
I am all for being wed…or not. I just want the former to be formed on the terms of those signing the certificate and no one else. We all have a right to choose. Don’t be cornered into the argument of “you are getting old” or “you are being too picky.” There is always the single life and all sorts of variations of an existence; there is late marriage, there is adoption, etc.

A marriage certificate will not buy you peace of mind or contentment; and the approval of those who were urging you to enter into the institution surely will not be enough to give you that “happy ever after.”

When You Look Back, How Will You See Your Life?

What a wonderful life I've had! I only wish I'd realized it sooner. ~  Sidonie Colette

When I came across the quote above, I realized how true it is, that many of us miss life as it's going by. We're either "waiting until" something great and wonderful happens in our life, or we don't really appreciate the good things that do come along. Much later, we look back and see that most of life was more fun than we knew at the time. But we missed the enjoyment of it.

Imagine a child going to Silverbird Cinema/Shoprite for the first time, and just wandering through the grounds, shrugging his shoulders as the exciting rides are pointed out, acting bored, or perhaps even aggravated at the crowds.

You'd be hard pressed to find a child acting that way in Silverbird/Shoprite. Kids don't notice the minor frustrations, they're more likely to take advantage of every possible activity, and enjoy every minute. They will keep going until they finally collapse in exhausted happiness.

Somewhere along the way, as we grow up, we lose that enthusiasm. We begin to focus more on the negatives than the positives in life. We miss all the good times, because we're complaining about the imperfections. We don't enjoy the steak, because the coffee wasn't great.

I know... I'm not supposed to be writing about attitude here, and I'm not, really. But what I hope to do is have you write your life story not just as a history book, but also as a story––a life––that you've created.

Make it what you want it to be! Make it fun, interesting, challenging! Write your life in the future.

Yes, life can be tough, and we all have problems. But that doesn't mean we still can't have a wonderful time along the way. If you're too broke to go out to dinner, get a drink of N200 and visit the free parks around your domicile. If you can't manage an out of state vacation, see some sights in your own town that you've missed.

Make life fun as you go. Look for the good in all situations, and enjoy everything you do. Make life fun!

Don't wait until many years have gone by, only to look back and realize you just wandered through the Amusement Park of your life without enjoying the rides!

End Of The World?...... I Think Not!

So, it's Sunday, March 3rd, and we escaped a shot, so to speak. Actually, when the rapture happens for real...on God's timetable, not some quack's...I hope I'm a part of it. But until then, we all need to keep living our lives the best we can.

It did get me thinking though, about getting our stories written (but then, what doesn't get me thinking about that.) You might say...."if the world ends, who will be left to read our stories?" That's very true. But the rapture will only take the believers, so we'll still need to leave our stories...especially about our faith.

But, okay, let's just leave all that out of the mix. None of us know when OUR last day will be...or that of a loved one. Not fun to think about, but it is what it is.

Don't wait until a tragic world event - or a tragic personal event - to realize you need to leave a legacy. Do it now.